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[hheldorfer]

Rest in peace, Carolina. The memory of your love and companionship will live on.

[Terrier lover]

Having an aging Cairn also, who is exactly the same color as Carolina strikes me right to the heart. There is nothing one can do except cry, sit back and know that you have done all you could to give Carolina the best life that she could possibly have. And the ashes... well when we had to do the deed with our Scottie, Sandie, we were initially going to bury her in the garden. It was winter and as crazy as it sounds I could not bare the thought of her being out in the cold. She is on our mantel above the fireplace, her collar, ashes and a picture of her are there. It gives me incredible peace of mind that although she is not in this physical world anymore, I know that a part of her is still with us. I hope in time you will feel that way also.

[Idaho Cairns]

Marsha, we also keep the ashes of our precious departed pets close and I find it very comforting to have access. Many times as I am falling asleep, thoughts of Toots, Ginger, or Shadow come flooding into my mind, thinking about what good dogs they were and how much I wish I could enjoy a few more moments with them--with their ashes close, I can reach up and touch those small urns holding their remains and it does comfort me. We have attached each dog's collars to the urns, with all the "jinglies" , the tags, and with a flick, I can hear those old familiar sounds the collars used to make and it quiets my soul and allows me to rest.
I think the knowledge that I still have part of these old wonderful friends near me all the time makes losing them a bit easier to bear but that is, of course, a personal decision we each have to make. I have thought of you often over the past couple of weeks and have hoped that your pain has eased a bit.

[Carolinasmom]

Thank you so much everyone. I miss her so much! When I opened up a Christmas box, (the first one), right on top was her stocking with her name on it. I just lost it. I don't look for her in her usual places as much anymore but every now and then I really miss her!

My mom, who has a litter mate to ours, tried contacting the breeder we got them from but the family can't be found, (well, their phone number goes to a bank...weird.). I'm not ready for another one just yet but maybe in the spring.

For now her ashes are on my nightstand, (had to be moved from our piano for Christmas decorations) along with her photos and a dried rose from the arrangement my parents brought over the morning she was put down. I will say our 15 year old cat is enjoying taking over our bed since Carolina isn't there anymore! He is driving me crazy all night. He never used to be a snuggler until now! Sheesh!

[Ivysmom]

So sorry to hear of your loss-it's so difficult to handle let alone dealing with your small children. I have been there twice as well. God bless and take care.

[oscar's mom]

I've read this post many times, and have not been able to express the empathy I feel.
She was family and it's never easy to get over the loss of someone you loved so much for so long.

[Carolinasmom]

Tomorrow, Sat. Jan 21st Carolina would have been 14. My parents have a litter mate and every year my mom would have a "birthday dinner" and have us all over. We would have dinner and cake and the dogs would get my mom's homemade dog cookies. I can't believe how much I miss her. We had broccoli twice this week and it broke my heart to toss out the leftovers. Carolina loved cooked broccoli and would have finished it off.

Anyway, no birthday dinner tomorrow night. It's just too hard. Poor Lindy, (her sister) has no idea what has happened although I know she wonders where Carolina is every time we come over and she is no longer with us. They were raised together since I was teaching elem. school when I got her and I took her over to my parents' every day for doggy day care. Mom told how they would play fight in the house and my mom would scold them so they would both tear out the doggy door and continue outside clear around the house. My mom would open the window and yell at them and she said they were SO surprised that she could hear them all the way around the house!

Happy 14th birthday Carolina Boo. I miss you snuggling with me and smelling your Frito feet, (someone on here years ago mentioned the Frito feet!)

[pkcrossley]

it hurts to miss them, because on the surface it means they not here. but under that, the fact that you miss them so means they are still here. happy birthday carolina.