I'm new here and have a question for those more familiar with this breed.
I have recently lost my companion - December 20th my little kitty died at 16 due to cancer. The whole process was quite traumatic for both of us and the ending was not the peaceful one I had hoped for. I'm still quite upset about it and miss her like mad. She was not just a pet to me, but a friend, and a bonded companion, so her loss was just as bad as losing my mother or a best friend. (no my mother's still alive, but I doubt her going could have hurt any more since I am not as close to her as I was to that cat.
Anyway, I am *NOT* ready to get a new animal yet, not when I'm still struggling over her loss. But I'm already starting to feel the need for a new companion and am starting to look around to decide what it is I want to go for. Since 'free' puppies seem to be nearly impossible to find anymore, even for mutts, and even for a rescue dog I'm looking at several hundred dollars for the dog alone, never mind vet fees, I figured I may as well find something I actually want. Right? I would take a free mutt, if I could find one in a size I'm allowed to keep, but the one litter of free pups I actually found were HUGE farm puppies. Eeps! I live with my mother and she refuses to consider a large dog, even if I'm the one paying. And, since there's no point in causing a fuss, and I suppose a small dog may make a better companion in the long run and be more 'convenient' in size. . .I'll go with it.
Anyway, she wants me to look at a Westie, when I'm ready. I'm ok with that, but in truth, I've always loved the Cairns. At least. . .their looks. I mean, honestly, who can watch the Wizard of Oz or Inkheart (I think thats a cairn?) and NOT want that? Its adorable! But since I am needing a particular role to be filled, I want to make sure I'm looking in the right place before I start digging too deep.
I've done some reading and its said the Cairn is more 'independent'. How far does this independence go with them? Would this breed make a good companion dog to someone needing company and have a proper 'bond' to form? Or are they more into doing their own thing? Does anyone happen to know how the Westies fair in this area?
I'm not against the 'general' pets, as I call them. Those that are nice to have around, but don't really bond properly and form a proper friendship. We have a cat like that (he was a dumpee that we rescued and gave a home. He's much loved here, but apart from his separation anxiety, he loves everyone in the family and no one in particular. Its a bit frustrating if you need something a bit closer. We also have a toy poodle that lacks a proper bond. We are his 3rd and 5th home and he really doesn't care about any of us, but he's terrified my mom will leave him. Poor beastie. As far as I can tell, getting a baby right from its birth-home allows a proper bond to form, but once thats broken, they don't all reform that. Some might, but none of the ones I've encountered ever have.) and while he's loved to pieces, he just doesn't. . .fill that spot my kitty did. She LIKED to be with me. She would sit down here with me, or follow me upstairs. She came to be wherever I was and if she couldn't be on my lap, she liked to curl up nearby. If I was upset, she couldn't fix it, but she would come purr for me and try to make me feel better. I need someone else like that. Who just will be a friend, not a pet that wanders from person to person, and doesn't care if you're upset or not, or pulls away if you try to use its fur as a kleenex. Pets are easy to find. Companions, not so much.
Anyway, I'm hoping for a dog this time. I thought it might be a bit better for me, as I could take it with me when I go out, and it would encourage me to get out and walk more. Where as a kitty is indoors all the time and can't go outside with you. *sniffs* But question is, which breed is more likely to provide this sort of companionship?
Do Cairns like spending time with their people? Do they like being cudddled and will they sleep with you? Or are they all about doing their own thing? Are westies any different?
Also, how are the males vs the females? IE, I've had two male dogs in a row now (over the years) that have been very. . .er. . well, good dogs, but very independant. Not really caring about their people. They were all too happy to just go their own way, get their own way, and all in all, anything that happened was either all about them or not important at all. (Actually the male cat we have is very much the same attitude. Really quite self-absorbed.
Thanks for the help! Hopefully by the time I feel ready to take on a new animal, I'll actually have a clue what I truly want to aim for. I guess there is something to be said for taking your time, huh?
















